Trauma stuff.
DNA surprises.
Hard times.
Let's outgrow it.

The concept of trauma has become a big thing in our culture. Many therapeutic modalities have been designed around the concept that childhood trauma is the root of all that is wrong with us as adults.

We've been told Trauma isn't just a "bad thing" that happens to us, or an unpleasant experience, or an event or experience that is disappointing. We all have bad, unpleasant, and disappointing experiences. They are a part of life. Trauma is an experience, event, or series of events that exceeds our coping skills and leaves us different as we move forward after the event or experience.

We are not minimizing the effects of trauma in your life. We know it's real. We see the point and agree that understanding childhood experiences can offer insight into our adult behavior patterns, but we strive for a different focus than simply trauma-centered coaching. We are interested in more than prescriptive, reductive approach to trauma that we are seeing elsewhere.

We are interested in what happens when trauma happens. Do we let difficult experiences define us forever? Do we live with rage or anxiety forever? Do we dwell on our negative past experiences in a way that keeps us in a state of victimhood? How do we achieve healing, growth and transformation in a world that seems obsessed with "childhood trauma?"

We Learn to Outgrow It.

Yep. That's the ultimate goal: to live in the present and move into the future without dwelling on how past experiences may still be negatively affecting our relationships and personal happiness. "But I've been living with this $h!t for years," you might say. "It was awful. I have PTSD. I've been victimized. I can't just let go of it."

Nope. Not easy to let go of, but if you are feeling pulled to do so, it can be a call worth heeding. We don't have to dwell on it or stew in our past forever. It doesn't need to define our identity. It can eventually become something that shaped us, but no longer defines us.

Carl Jung says, "The greatest and most important problems of life are all in a certain sense insoluble. They can never be solved, but only outgrown. This ‘outgrowing’, as I formerly called it, on further experience was seen to consist in a new level of consciousness. Some higher or wider interest arose on the person’s horizon, and through this widening of view, the insoluble problem lost its urgency. It was not solved logically in its own terms, but faded out when confronted with a new and stronger life-tendency.”

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How Does Transformative
Coaching Work?

At LittleBird, we want to help you learn to listen to your soul as you look for a new way of expanding who you are and what you want to do in the world. We help you develop healthy beliefs and positive coping strategies for moving forward in life.

We don't see you as "broken" or "weak," or "sick" or "dysfunctional." We see you as having a normal reaction to an abnormal situation.

We don't "pathologize" or diagnose your behavior. We don't design treatment plans. We don't tell you what to do. We don't see you as any different than we are.

We simply come along side you while you learn to think in a way that helps you outgrown old patterns that are no longer serving you.

We offer in-person sessions in the South Florida area, and virtual coaching sessions for anyone not in the area. Personal coaching is not a replacement for medical care or psychotherapy, but it can work beautifully as a complement to medical and psychological care. To learn more about the difference between coaching and therapy, click here.

LittleBird Coaching Can Help You:

Learn how to connect with yourself and others by identifying trauma-based negative beliefs
Establish personal safety parameters
Identify current maladaptive coping behaviors
Identify your strengths and maximize them
Set goals and create an action plan for your recovery
Develop coping strategies to facilitate personal change
Measure your success with specific behavioral outcomes
Understand how intergenerational trauma, family mythology and family systems have affected your beliefs and behavior
Structure your growth with accountability
Celebrate your wins